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"On some basic yet very deep level all of us feel fundamentally alone, and until we face this directly, we will fear it.
Most of us will do almost anything to avoid this fear.
Many, when faced with the fear of aloneness, get extra busy,
or try to find some other escape.
Ultimately, however, the willingness to truly feel the fear of aloneness and loss is the only way to transcend it.
It’s also the only way to develop intimacy with others, because genuine intimacy can’t be based on neediness or on the fear of being alone.
When we need people we can’t truly love them, because we see them and relate to them through the small mind’s filter of neediness."

Ezra Bayda (from an article named "what matters most")

"Ego is like a room of your own, a room with a view with the temperature and the smells and the music that you like. You want it your own way. You'd just like to have a little peace, you'd like to have a little happiness, you know, just gimme a break. But the more you think that way, the more you try to get life to come out so that it will always suit you, the more your dear of other people and what's outside your room grows. Rather than becoming more relaxed, you start pulling down the shades and locking the door. When you do go out, you find the experience more and more unsettling and disagreeable. You become touchier, more fearful, more irritable than ever. The more you try to get it your way, the less you feel at home."

Pema Chodron

"Making yourself more available, more gentle and open to others. The warrior who has accomplished true renunciation is completely naked and raw.  He has no desire to manipulate situations.  He is able to be, quite fearlessly, what he is.  The result of [this] letting go it that [he] discovers a bank of self-existing energy that is always available.  It is the energy of basic goodness."

Chogyam Trungpa